What do you do to feel human? This question was posed to me by a friend who is a mother of two toddler boys. “Lotion,” I told her and she gave me a quizzical look. I explained that it is part of my daily ritual to use a nice scented lotion after my shower. No matter how busy I am, I like to have my lotion.
I figured out she meant what did I do to look presentable as a busy Mom when her answer to the same question was she needed to put on lipstick. Yes, I also like to be presentable, not to look like I am a Mom of multiples by having frazzled hair, sweat pants and tennis shoes. At moments, I have some (or even all) of these things, like the tennis shoes I am wearing now. But, for the most part, I like to take care of myself. I feel capable when a capable-looking person looks back at me in the mirror.
But, my ritual to feel human is still lotion. It is a daily indulgence that is a way of taking care of me no matter how busy life gets. As my kids grow, I want to them to see us, as parents, taking care of ourselves. If we are completely self-sacrificing, that role model will make a big impact on who they become. I want them to take care of themselves when the day comes for them to launch into the world on their own.
What do you do to feel human? As always, comments are welcome.